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HAND LogoHAND is a resource network of parents, professionals, and supportive volunteers that offers a variety of services throughout Northern California and the Central Valley. There are no fees for our services. HAND relies entirely on donations to support its programs. More...

  Tribute - Shirley Choy-Marshall  

At HAND we come together to help each other mourn the loss of our dear children, gone too soon. No one was more dedicated to this community we've created than Shirley Choy-Marshall, who we recently lost, also too soon; she lost her fight with breast cancer on May 9th at the young age of 45.

Shirley always had grace, a sincere smile, creative ideas, and a ready, helping hand. After attending many grief meetings herself over the years, she joined HAND's board and eagerly helped in every possible way, facilitating subsequent pregnancy meetings and putting in hours of preparation to help make Holiday Craft nights and annual Services of Remembrance be so successful.

We at HAND mourn Shirley's loss, and at the same time we want to honor her legacy. As she always put others first and helped countless families begin to heal after losses, so may we continue to selflessly reach out and help each other in our grief journeys. We wish peace to Shirley's husband, Ray, and two young sons, Aidan and Shea, as well as peace to all of you.

  Holiday Craft Night - December 4, 2014  

Please join us for the HAND Holiday Craft Night

Come spend a special evening with us in December. HAND will provide craft materials for you to make a holiday keepsake or ornament to remember your angel child(ren) during the holidays.

Coffee and beverages will be provided by HAND, and guests are welcome to bring a dessert or appetizer to share!

WHEN: Thursday, December 4, 2014
TIME: 7:30pm to 9:00pm
WHERE: Mission Oaks Community Hospital (cafeteria)
15891 Los Gatos-Almaden Road
Los Gatos, CA 95032

Please RSVP by November 27, 2014 at the following website:

Please contact Kelly at info@handonline.org with any questions.


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